Quote of the day

27 Oct

“If you steal money, you probably get arrested and convicted, because everybody says stealing is wrong. But if you do something that is very sexist or racist, because there still is a critical mass of bias in this country, it takes more cumulative instances for it to be recognized.”

–Gloria Steinem, 2017

This is Gloria Steinem speaking in an interview alongside Jane Fonda about why the allegations of sexual harassment, abuse and assault against Harvey Weinstein seem to matter to people now. As Fonda put it, “It feels like something has shifted. It’s too bad that it’s probably because so many of the women that were assaulted by Harvey Weinstein are famous and white and everybody knows them. This has been going on a long time to black women and other women of color and it doesn’t get out quite the same.”

… which in itself is a quotable quote.

But I was struck particularly by Steinem’s naming of the “critical mass of bias in this country.” She flipped the script on something I try to illuminate, when I work with groups around -isms and -phobias, and specifically around what makes them hard to address: it’s that any real -ism or -phobia is, by definition, systemic. It’s the way things work. And it’s very hard to notice the default: the ways things normally are and seem always to have been. So it’s been harder than one might rationally expect for instances of violent and repeated sexual harassment, abuse and assault to be recognized, at least in part, because as a culture we have an alarmingly high level of tolerance–and even acceptance–for misogynist and sexist attitudes and behaviors. Socially acceptable gender and sexual biases don’t just blind us to everyday, pre-assault/harassment/abuse behaviors; they inure us to the very fact of how people are degraded on the basis of their gender everyday, publicly and with our tacit consent.

What can I do? How can I help?

12 Oct

We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. Never again can we afford to live with the narrow, provincial “outside agitator” idea. Anyone who lives inside the United States can never be considered an outsider anywhere within its bounds.

–Martin Luther King, Jr., “Letter from a Birmingham Jail,” 1963

While Martin Luther King, Jr. was writing about social injustice when he wrote those lines, they seem entirely relevant as well to the natural disasters that are befalling communities near and close to us, within and across national lines, and across vast stretches of land and water.

Wherever you are, I realize that many of us who haven’t experienced the devastation of Hurricanes Harvey, Irma, Maria and Nate or the Napa and Sonoma fires, know people who have. I hope you and your communities are safe.

And if you’re having conversations with students, colleagues, friends and family about how to help, I wanted to share some resources: I’m just learning about the concept of effective altruism, and came across this tool: the Greatest Good Calculator from the Center for International Disaster Information.

I offer these not so much as any right answers to the questions so many people are asking: “How do I help? What can I do?” but as ways to advance our discernment about how to effect our values and aspirations most impactfully.

What to say when people attack the diversity of your community

29 Sep

I’ve been having conversations with communities about not just responding when an attack on identity and diversity happens in your community, but helping others to be prepared for what to say when… something unsafe happens.
It’s OK to be caught off guard. But to be unprepared–especially now, as hate speech, hate action and hate movements are on the rise–is, I would say, irresponsible.

Maybe you don’t know what to say. Maybe others don’t either. But together, you can brainstorm, practice (yes, actually, role play it out–because what you think or hope you’d say in a situation may be different than what comes out of your mouth looking into someone else’s eyes) and increase your collective preparedness for words and actions that we can reasonably expect to challenge the vital identity and diversity of our communities. And because identity and diversity are vital, we owe it to ourselves and each other to have some tools in our toolkits to respond, and not to let bigotry have the last word.

Here’s a quick video that I recommend you take 5:30mins to watch. This is Lt. Gen. Jay Silveria of the US Air Force when racial slurs were anonymously written on the dorm room white boards of black cadets. Toward the end of his address, Silveria tells the cadets and his leadership team what he has to say to racism and other -isms/-phobias, and what they can say. He tells the cadets to record him so that they can use him to deliver the message to anyone who hasn’t gotten the memo.

I encourage us all to use this example as a model of how to stand up for love and excellence in diversity. We need to convene and empower leadership and every member of our communities with everyday skills for living our values.

Resources if you’re wondering what to say or what to do about Trump’s decision to end DACA

6 Sep

Here is a beginning list of resources that you may find helpful. Please pass on and add to, as this isn’t complete or comprehensive… just a rolling list:

More soon…

And thanks to SK, ABT, MW and NPEA for sharing resources.

 

Holiday wishes to you and yours

19 Dec

Sending a wish to you and your community for the holidays you celebrate, the break you may be enjoying as 2016 concludes, and the new year.
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Interview with a human being from Aleppo

17 Dec

I heard this interview yesterday on The Takeaway and want to share it forward. Human being, rapper, Syrian refugee and current German resident Basel Marshall articulates clearly one of the secondary but still potent reasons why so many have been killed in Aleppo:

As you can see, Paris or Charlie Hebdo or Brussels, things happened [there], and the whole world got crazy about it. I mean why? We’re not humans? It’s only because we’re Syrians it’s OK that we die? But for those people, no, we have to support them and we have to pray for Paris? We do, yeah, I was sad — I was very sad about what happened. But we’re also humans and we also deserve some support.

It makes me feel like the world is looking at us like we’re second quality humans. I have this anger against anyone who could help and didn’t do anything, and it’s against anyone who was part of this. Anyone who accepted this killing. Anyone who gave the green-light to Bashar al-Assad to kill those people.

We’re also human. We also have families. We also have feelings. We also get afraid when our houses get bombed. We also get afraid when we see our neighbors in another city get choked to death by chemical weapons.

With a cease-fire and evacuations currently underway in Aleppo, we can easily fall into a sense of “everything’s fine now” and a deeper indifference about the fragility of the current state of affairs and the recovery (potentially including more injury and death). And while it’s sometimes overwhelming to consider what’s really happening in the world to real human beings, I agree with Marshall: what helps is to do what we can do. Doing nothing, ignoring real pain and suffering, and practicing not seeing people as people is one option. For his thoughts on other options, please listen to his interview.

For more information about what’s happening on the ground in Syria, here’s a link to the White Helmets.

DACA renewal workshops in SF

1 Dec

Hi all,

A quick request to spread the word about a DACA (Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals) renewal workshop at Lick-Wilmerding High School, 755 Ocean Ave. in San Francisco on Tuesday, December 6, 2016. No appointments needed, and more info in available in:

What Is DACA

On June 15, 2012, the Secretary of Homeland Security announced that certain people who came to the United States as children and meet several guidelines may request consideration of deferred action for a period of two years, subject to renewal. They are also eligible for work authorization. Deferred action is a use of prosecutorial discretion to defer removal action against an individual for a certain period of time. Deferred action does not provide lawful status.

Please visit US Citizenship and Immigration Services for more information about renewing your DACA (including who is eligible and when to renew).

  • Thanks to LWHS for organizing this workshop.