Look, I know you’re a nice person. I know you mean well.
I do, too.
The question is: what are you and I doing with our good intentions?
This is an awesome short video about the difference–and sometimes the vast distance–between intention and impact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBuC_0-d-9Y.
It reminds me of Mia McKenzie’s decision to replace the noun “ally” with the action verb “currently operating in solidarity with.” Helping the poor is not a status. As McKenzie writes, it ought to “describe what a person is doing in the moment. It does not give credit for past acts of solidarity without regard for current behavior. It does not assume future acts of solidarity. It speaks only to the actions of the present” (http://www.blackgirldangerous.org/2013/09/no-more-allies/).